“I’m terrible at interviewing for staff and I’m very disorganized. I suck.” Those were words I never fully expected to hear from a business owner I was working with; she had come to me for help to streamline her business which was taking off. However, this owner was not fully ready to take on the extra work. As we were exploring what was standing in her way, she blurted out those words.
While this business owner was feeling frustrated and in a state of chaos, I thought the admission of those words was a brilliant breakthrough to ending this state. I mean, how many business leaders would admit their deficits and without placing blame elsewhere? From my experience, not many. But I think that it is exactly what’s needed in order to move forward. When we try to do too many tasks in our business without asking for help – no, admitting we need help that is when we are open to making positive changes.
As a society, we are so focused on success that we overlook (hide) the fact that we all have deficits in some way; by hiding we reinforce them as being ‘painful’ or ‘shameful.’ This is what leads to poor self-esteem and “stuckness.” What a wonderful thought if we would be more open to our own failures – not the perceived ones – and admit them; I have one of my graduate students who gave an example that her organization encourages this type of openness, which starts with their CEO admitting an epic failure in his career. He relayed that this failure actually advanced his career which led to his current position. How refreshing!
Hiding our deficits only leads to brain chemicals getting released consistently, resulting in negative thoughts and mood. The bad news is that things could get worse and you could live in total negativity and going nowhere, like my client. (more…)
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