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By Dr. Barbara Seifert, LCSW, CPC, NLP
We are heading into the holidays and as we go on our busy days, we can often lose sight of people and things that we have and can take them for granted. This can cause us to focus on what we perceive we don’t have, leading us to feel we have missed out or to become envious of others who we feel have these missing tangibles. This can get us “stuck” in a negative mode. Everything and everyone we encounter can make us focus only on the negative aspect of an experience. But, if we want to start attracting the things we want, be they people, wants or wishes, we need to think more positively so we can attract positive experiences into our lives.
The first way to start this positive thought process is to learn to let go of those negative thoughts. Along with our thoughts comes meaning that we give to these thoughts. We choose how we interpret events and experiences in our lives. These interpretations are the result of our past experiences and beliefs and may also be influenced by others that we know. Because we give our own interpretation to experiences, we are able to change that interpretation. We can challenge our interpretation and choose what meanings and feelings we attach to our situations and experiences that we encounter. If you are not feeling good about a situation you have experienced, think back and reflect on how you have interpreted the situation, paying careful attention to the feelings and meaning you have given. Ask yourself how you can reframe your interpretation to see what “gifts” you were given by the experience or how you might have acted differently to get a positive outcome. (more…)