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Being Brave Enough to Admit Your Own Deficits

Being Brave Enough to Admit Your Own DeficitsBy Dr. Barbara Seifert, CPC 

“I’m terrible at interviewing for staff and I’m very disorganized. I suck.” Those were words I never fully expected to hear from a business owner I was working with; she had come to me for help to streamline her business which was taking off. However, this owner was not fully ready to take on the extra work. As we were exploring what was standing in her way, she blurted out those words.

While this business owner was feeling frustrated and in a state of chaos, I thought the admission of those words was a brilliant breakthrough to ending this state. I mean, how many business leaders would admit their deficits and without placing blame elsewhere? From my experience, not many. But I think that it is exactly what’s needed in order to move forward. When we try to do too many tasks in our business without asking for help – no, admitting we need help that is when we are open to making positive changes.

As a society, we are so focused on success that we overlook (hide) the fact that we all have deficits in some way; by hiding we reinforce them as being ‘painful’ or ‘shameful.’ This is what leads to poor self-esteem and “stuckness.” What a wonderful thought if we would be more open to our own failures – not the perceived ones – and admit them; I have one of my graduate students who gave an example that her organization encourages this type of openness, which starts with their CEO admitting an epic failure in his career. He relayed that this failure actually advanced his career which led to his current position. How refreshing!

Hiding our deficits only leads to brain chemicals getting released consistently, resulting in negative thoughts and mood. The bad news is that things could get worse and you could live in total negativity and going nowhere, like my client. (more…)

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Feeling the Blah’s? Three Suggestions to Help You Reenergize

Feeling the Blah’s? Three Suggestions to Help You Reenergize By Cathi Nelson

Do you ever find yourself stuck in the “blah’s,? For me, I usually feel this way in late fall when the darkness comes early, the leaves have fallen, and the sky is often steel gray. This is the time I question all my decisions and wonder why I am doing what I am doing. The grass can look a lot greener on the “other side of the fence”. Over the years, I have come to realize this is often a stage and there are ways I can recapture my energy and passion for what I do.

Here are 3 suggestions if you find yourself struggling with the tedious tasks of working from home.

Volunteer:

I recently offered to photograph and create a memory book for a young teen receiving a wish from our local Make A Wish Foundation. It was a wonderful few hours and reminded me of why I started my business in the first place. You can do the same, make a list of your talents and find a place to give back. What was helpful for me is I only gave a few hours. I have often viewed volunteering as time intensive but I realized that even a few hours can make a difference.

Schedule a Personal Care Day:

In the busyness of our lives, especially as moms and wives our care is often last on the list. It doesn’t have to cost much, even scheduling a daily walk can help you slow down and attend to your own needs. (more…)

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What are the Energy levels of your Conversations?

What are the Energy levels of your ConversationsBy Kelly Robbins

Would you like to make more money working from home? Have better quality relationships in your life? Feel confident that you are genuinely present and of service every time you interact with someone? Know that you make a difference in each person’s life that you come in contact with?

Creating these wonderful outcomes doesn’t come from external tasks and practicing your elevator pitch for hours before attending a networking event. Or having that perfect business card and the most efficient marketing system on the planet.

These outcomes emanate from conversations you have.

If you would like to improve your sales numbers, or the quality of your personal relationships, take a look at what types of conversations you are having. Just as important as what you are saying is how you are being and where you are coming from when interacting with people.

What are the energy levels of the conversations you engage in?

The energy level of each conversation is more important than anything you can say. People will spend days and weeks putting together and practicing their “elevator pitch” when what they should be looking at first is the intention behind their conversations. (more…)

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Can You Self-Hate Yourself to Success? Three Tips to Love Yourself and Achieve More

Man with Love and Hate (fake) tattoos.By Diana Schneidman

I recently saw an interesting LinkedIn discussion on this very topic. One side asserted that you can motivate yourself to achieve your best by loving yourself more deeply.

The other side claimed you need stern, relentless self-criticism to stay on top of your work, get more done, and surge ahead.

Pretty sad, in my opinion.

I believe it’s easier to accomplish your goals when you are your own best friend.

It may be possible to succeed when you beat yourself up. But this success is in spite of you, not because of you.

Certainly there are many advantages to working at home. Convenience, no time wasted in travel, access to your own refrigerator, and financial savings. Add flexibility in scheduling, peace and quiet, freedom to work on the patio or play the music of your choice, depending on your situation.

However, there is a possible downside: isolation and even loneliness.

If you have a tendency towards feeling blue, the worst thing in the world is to feed it with negative thoughts. (more…)

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Living With No Expectations

Living With No ExpectationsDr. Barbara Seifert, CPC

Imagine a life where all your dreams come true; a life that is filled with happiness, love for what you do and who you are, and enriched relationships. Sounds illusive doesn’t it? What if I told you that this is not only doable but easier than it sounds? And what if you knew that millions of people are actually living this way – would that entice you to read further and learn how to have this kind of life?

If by this point a thought crossed your mind for what you were hoping to find, then you have actually uncovered the key: having no expectations. Think about it: you set a goal for yourself, maybe you list the various steps you think will take you there, and then you dive in fully expecting that those steps are going to make that goal a reality. But what if those steps don’t work and you lose your motivation along the way; what if there is another person or situation that blocks the path; or, what if you reach the goal but find it wasn’t what you thought it would be? That is what having expectations will do – keep you stuck at some level.

In order to better understand, let’s define exactly what an expectation is: “the belief that something will happen or is likely to happen; a feeling or belief about how good something will be” (Merriam-Webster). ‘A belief that is centered on the future, which may or may not be realistic; a less than advantageous result gives rise to the emotion of disappointment” (definition.net). As you can see, anytime you say you want something, be that from others or yourself, you are attaching an outcome already to it which comes in the form of ‘want’ or ‘hope’ in the thoughts and words you say. (more…)

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