Dr. Barbara Seifert, CPC
Imagine a life where all your dreams come true; a life that is filled with happiness, love for what you do and who you are, and enriched relationships. Sounds illusive doesn’t it? What if I told you that this is not only doable but easier than it sounds? And what if you knew that millions of people are actually living this way – would that entice you to read further and learn how to have this kind of life?
If by this point a thought crossed your mind for what you were hoping to find, then you have actually uncovered the key: having no expectations. Think about it: you set a goal for yourself, maybe you list the various steps you think will take you there, and then you dive in fully expecting that those steps are going to make that goal a reality. But what if those steps don’t work and you lose your motivation along the way; what if there is another person or situation that blocks the path; or, what if you reach the goal but find it wasn’t what you thought it would be? That is what having expectations will do – keep you stuck at some level.
In order to better understand, let’s define exactly what an expectation is: “the belief that something will happen or is likely to happen; a feeling or belief about how good something will be” (Merriam-Webster). ‘A belief that is centered on the future, which may or may not be realistic; a less than advantageous result gives rise to the emotion of disappointment” (definition.net). As you can see, anytime you say you want something, be that from others or yourself, you are attaching an outcome already to it which comes in the form of ‘want’ or ‘hope’ in the thoughts and words you say. (more…)
By Britt Andreatta
Work-at-home women are the most savvy and entrepreneurial people I know — and I’m not just saying that because I’ve been one. They are people like Lisa Gates, who started SheNegoiates.com to teach women key negotiation skills and Sara Caputo of Radiant Organizing, who helps organizations and people achieve peak productivity. Who doesn’t need more of that, right?
Even me. I have been an author, coach and consultant, often working from home in between or in conjunction with “regular jobs.”
What I know about all of us is that we always hunger to improve ourselves, seeking to take our skills to the next level. Just reading this post is an example of that — you want to get to the top of your game or keep yourself there.
Here are three practices to help you do just that.
1. Stay Relevant.
There’s no question that technology has changed the marketplace. More and more successful businesses are launched in living rooms, and social media has made it possible for individuals to compete with industry giants.
But the downside is that technology is constantly changing. To be at the top of your game, you need to stay relevant and current, which can be a full-time job in and of itself. (more…)
Dr. Barbara Seifert, CPC
Well, here we are at the beginning of another new month; this must mean that it’s time to set new goals for what you want to accomplish over these next 31 days. Now I’m all about that but, to be quite honest, I’m a bit tired of the whole goal-setting thing. Now don’t get me wrong as I’m not negating the power of setting goals; after all, we all need aims and desires to move ourselves forward. But it seems that so much focus gets put on the setting of goals, but what if nothing come of them; while setting those goals is a necessity they don’t mean squat if you don’t do anything about them.
I’ve come to really put more focus in my work with clients on the end result; it’s about ‘kicking butt and finishing strong.”
For my clients, that might mean amping up their performance to a whole new level, or getting that VP promotion, or getting their creative business idea off the ground. Being in action-mode needs to be the norm – no more “I want to …” – this will get you nowhere except where you are right now as well as leave you in a negative way. I’ve come to this new mantra from my own experience – I for one have had to get to the space and kick my own butt. It’s time to quit playing small and start living large.
The new month is a the perfect time to get going and really take your performance and your mind-set up ten notches and begin having the very things you want when you set goals.
Put your focus on action and less on planning. (more…)
By Kelly Robbins
Laid off? Keep experiencing the same lack of money issues? Frustrated because things keep happening that feel out of your control? Dating the ‘same loser’ for the millionth time? Business declining – again?
It’s common to keep experiencing the same patterns over and over again and become frustrated because we can’t seem to stop the cycle. We may have even fallen into a victim mindset, because we are so mad at ourselves that this happened yet again and we can’t see how to prevent it!
Rather than beating yourself up, what if you try taking a step away from the experience and all the emotion attached to it and look at why it might be happening in the first place?
Why does it seem like just when you are starting to get ahead, everything, large and small, starts conspiring against you?
If you are looking at these “bad” experiences as a lesson you are to learn or a skill to master, you might be able to see the opportunity available to you in a different light.
What if you ultimately believe the Universe is conspiring in your favor – not against you? This underlying belief can and will make the difference between the success or failure of your business, your relationships, and your life. (more…)
By Diana Schneidman
Have you been reading what I’ve been reading? That women can’t say “no” when asked to take on volunteer responsibilities. That we have to learn to stand up for ourselves and turn down unpaid “opportunities.”
How are you doing with that?
If you’re like the women I’m experiencing in my life, it’s simply not true. Women say “no” all the time and don’t think twice about it.
That’s why those of us who sometimes say “yes” feel more burdened than ever. We’re getting “helpful” suggestions from the peanut gallery, but not enough people are stepping forward to help out.
Those of us serving as president or chairing events are starting to feel like horses’ patouties. The socially acceptable term for this emotional state is “burnout”.
I myself have resigned from the boards of several organizations, both professional and service oriented. I had served for years as secretary or PR chair of associations, in part because these roles used my greatest talents and fit into my schedule as a work-at-home writer.
Eventually I realized that Robert’s Rules of Order bores me to tears and so does writing minutes. As for PR, it’s so similar to my paid work that I feel like I’m sitting down to more work but without pay, resulting in a longer workday with insufficient variety. (more…)