I’m Not Dead Yet So I Must Be Stronger
By Tami Gomez
When I started my first home-based business in 2009, I had two things to worry about – learn how to use Social Media to increase my profits and be disciplined enough to blog twice a week to keep my Google rankings high. Those two things may not sound very stressful but when your business is your only source of income, it’s easy to make a mountain out of a mole hill.
Then in October of 2010, my first child was born. By that time I had started another business and I found out very quickly that trying to juggle 2 businesses and a newborn was even more stressful.
I struggled with time management even though my daughter slept most of the time. I was super excited like most parents are and spent most of my time taking lots of pictures and videos of our new little bundle of joy. The more time I spent with her, the less time I spent on my business. Subsequently, my income declined and the stress level was rising. If I spent time with my daughter, I felt guilty about neglecting my businesses. If I spent time on my businesses, I felt guilty about neglecting my daughter.
What a vicious cycle I was putting myself through emotionally and mentally.
As I write this, I have 3 businesses and my daughter is now 2 years old. On top of that, my 86 year old mother was diagnosed with advanced dementia and is no longer able to live on her own. Since I work from home, I was the “shoe-in” candidate between my two older siblings to take care of her. I don’t mind because it’s the right thing to do. I always told her that I would NEVER put her in a nursing home and I wasn’t about to go back on that promise now.
The first week with mom in the house was excruciating! She has Sundowners Syndrome which means her days and nights are flipped. The first night she didn’t sleep at all. She was confused, combative and highly agitated. She thought people were trying to break into the house. She was terrified that a man would break in and rape her in her sleep. It was a horrible experience for everyone in the house – especially my young daughter.
The 2nd night was turning into a replay of the first, so I took her to the E.R. where they admitted her for 2 days because of a horrible bladder infection. Infections can make the symptoms of dementia a thousand times worse – it definitely made it worse for my mom. Once we had the infection cleared up and got her on an anti-anxiety medication, we haven’t had any issues with night wandering, the angry attitude, or the hallucinations that we saw the first few nights. We still have a bad day here and there but for the most part, she is happy, healthy and stable in her little world of living “moment by moment”.
Taking care of my mom is a full-time job. Taking care of my 2 year old daughter is a full-time job. Running 3 businesses is a full-time job. Add them all together and you have the ingredients for either a mental breakdown or a heart attack, which I was on track to have both. I knew I had to find a way to manage my time and stress levels or it was going to kill me. My pride wouldn’t allow me to ask for help. I was angry, bitter and exhausted. As you can imagine, I wasn’t exactly “Suzy Sunshine” to be around. My relationship was suffering because I seemed depressed and angry all the time. My daughter was acting out and so was my mom. It’s amazing how your energy can be sensed by those around you – even without a word being said.
Fast-forward to today: I finally swallowed my pride and asked for help. I consulted with doctors, my family and read everything on dementia that I could get my hands on. I learned that I needed to have patience, understanding and most importantly, I needed to live in the moment like my mom and daughter. Children and Dementia patients are a lot alike – they both are easily distracted and they forget what happened 5 minutes prior. Once I realized that, I stopped trying to negotiate with my mom and the stress level decreased dramatically.
My next dilemma was relieving the stress of running my businesses. I had to figure out how to schedule 2-3 hours per day of 100% focused, uninterrupted time.
A recent study showed that if a CEO focused completely on his or her business for just 2-3 hours per day, productivity would increase by 300% and so would the company’s revenue. WOW! That was an eye-opener for me. After really thinking about it, I realized that if I got up at 5am, before everyone else was awake, I could get in 3 hours of focused, uninterrupted time. Guess what, it worked!
I experimented with my direct sales business (visit TamiGomez.com for more info) and my revenue doubled in the first 14 days. I learned to outsource tasks that I didn’t enjoy doing – Things like pay-per-click advertising, driving traffic to my website and website maintenance. The crazy thing is that outsourcing these tasks save me thousands of dollars each month by using a secret weapon that I revealed in a recent 30-minute teleclass. (You can get the free replay recording at The Overnight Entrepreneur). This allowed me to do the things that I’m good at and subsequently the things that make me money, like building relationships with my customers and making sure that they are receiving the attention and customer service that they deserve.
With all of that said, the quote “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is true. Trust me, I’m still here and I am stronger than I ever thought I was capable of being. So, if you think your life is too crazy, stressful or hectic to be a successful work-at-home woman, you are dead wrong! Trust me…if I can do it, YOU can too! I totally believe in you and am here if you need support or advice. You can email me at Tami@BrainBootCamps.com and I promise to respond within 24 hours!
Tami is one of the World’s Leading Authority on the Law of Attraction. She has directly impacted the lives of thousands of people on 5 continents as a success coach. She is committed to helping stay at home moms find legitimate work at home job opportunities. You can see her legitimate work at home resources for home businesses and work at home jobs on her website at www.TamiGomez.com. You can also connect with her on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/tgomezfans.