As some of you may know this past spring, I went through the process of having a miscarriage. I say process because it didn’t just happen.
Here’s how it all began.
We had just returned from vacation, and we were eager to hear our baby’s heartbeat at our 11-week checkup visit, that is until we found out that the fetus had stopped growing and was no longer viable.
After some discussion, we decided to wait for my body to miscarry the fetus naturally – however, it didn’t happen. The next step in the process was to take a couple of doses of medication that was supposed to help the process along – it didn’t.
Finally, I scheduled an appointment to have a D&C. After the miscarriage and a good amount of time mourning, I started to feel better and was excited to try again.
They tell you it can take anywhere from 6 – 8 weeks for your cycle to return, so I waited, and waited, and waited, but it never returned. I spoke to the doctor, who said that this wasn’t uncommon and she tested my thyroid levels (which were normal) and gave me a prescription for a progesterone supplement with hopes that this would kick-start my cycle. I took the ten-day supply and waited for something to happen, but nothing came.
Just this past week I finished up round two of my progesterone supplements, and to my dismay, I’m still waiting. It’s been 15 weeks since the miscarriage; maybe the process of waiting for my cycle to return wouldn’t be such a big deal, but I just turned 38, and I feel like my clock is ticking and the chance for a second baby is quickly slipping through my fingers.
Patience is not one of my strong suits, but both in business and in life, it is a quality that is needed, and often one that must be cultivated.
Here is my personal path to developing patience and sanity.
1. Appreciate What You Have
No matter what happens in life, I have been blessed with the most amazing husband and daughter in the world. We are surrounded by people that we love; we are all in good health and financially secure. By taking a personal inventory of what you have in life, you can help to put a more positive spin on your situation. Way too often we get caught up with what we don’t have that we forget about all of the things that we do have.
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2. Remain in the Present
Constant worry and stress tend to take us out of the present and put us in an endless tailspin of what-ifs. By truly focusing on the here are now we can appreciate what we do have and live life more fully. Also, you never know when an experience will, if ever happen again – grab hold of it and savor it!
3. Live Each Day to the Fullest
When you live each day to the fullest and take advantage of every moment, there’s no time to consume ourselves with worry, doubt, and impatience. Life is an adventure, and you never know what exciting things are waiting around the corner for you.
4. Rest and Relaxation
Too often we forget to take care of ourselves, but spending a little time pampering ourselves we can help to take out mind off our worries. Enjoy a nice meal, get a spa treatment, read a book, or simply enjoy a cup of tea while sitting outside watching the sunrise.
5. Remember Everything Happens for a Reason
Each event in our lives, whether positive or negative, makes up the type of person who we are today. Often it is the most devastating and heartbreaking events that have the greatest and most profound effect on us. By learning from these experiences and embracing life for what it is, we can make the most of every lesson that is given to us.
These are just some of the small steps I am taking every day to learn and cultivate patience in my own life. Do you have a method for developing patience? I’d love to hear how you deal with impatience both in your business and personal life.