By Dr. Barbara Seifert, LCSW, CPC, NLP
We are heading into the holidays and as we go on our busy days, we can often lose sight of people and things that we have and can take them for granted. This can cause us to focus on what we perceive we don't have, leading us to feel we have missed out or to become envious of others who we feel have these missing tangibles. This can get us “stuck” in a negative mode. Everything and everyone we encounter can make us focus only on the negative aspect of an experience. But, if we want to start attracting the things we want, be they people, wants or wishes, we need to think more positively so we can attract positive experiences into our lives.
The first way to start this positive thought process is to learn to let go of those negative thoughts. Along with our thoughts comes meaning that we give to these thoughts. We choose how we interpret events and experiences in our lives. These interpretations are the result of our past experiences and beliefs and may also be influenced by others that we know. Because we give our own interpretation to experiences, we are able to change that interpretation. We can challenge our interpretation and choose what meanings and feelings we attach to our situations and experiences that we encounter. If you are not feeling good about a situation you have experienced, think back and reflect on how you have interpreted the situation, paying careful attention to the feelings and meaning you have given. Ask yourself how you can reframe your interpretation to see what “gifts” you were given by the experience or how you might have acted differently to get a positive outcome.
Being thankful and grateful is the key to attracting positive energy and positive experiences. According to the Law of Attraction, “taking the time to focus on what you already have in your life, recognizing your great fortune, and appreciating it will automatically put you in a “feel good” mood” (Ricotti, 2008). Here are a few exercises to help you move to gratefulness and to attracting positive energy into your life:
- Keep a journal of all the things you are grateful for in your life. To help you in this process, use mental imagery to visualize everything you have in your life and write these down: “I am grateful for……”
- Another way is to write down, for one week, all of the positive things that have happened, such as things you think or say about yourself or someone else or the words or actions others have said about you. Read these positives on a daily basis to help you become more aware of all the good things you have in your life.
- Spend time in activities you enjoy and with the people you care about. It will help you to feel connected and energized, lessen your stress, and create an abundance of gratefulness for them in your life.
Doing these activities will help you to not only appreciate the good things you have in your life, but also to uncover more of who you are and what you want more of in your life. Living a life of thanks is the key to more peace, more focus and a better outlook – all of which can help you survive the holidays with ease!
Dr. Barbara Seifert, LCSW, CPC, NLP is the President of Committed to Your Success Coaching & Consulting in Orlando, Florida. She helps individuals to take charge of their careers, find the work they love and enhance their professional development to reach their peak performance. She also coaches in organizations to enhance employee engagement and leadership development. Dr. Seifert is an adjunct professor, a certified coach and certified in Neuro-Linguistic Programming. You can learn more by visiting www.cyscoaching.com and Your Career Success Blog at www.allaboutcareerssite.wordpress.com.