I’ll let you in on a little secret. I didn’t set any goals this year. While I know the importance of goals and having a clear-cut business path to achieve those goals, my heart just wasn’t in it. I had lost my exuberance and passion for what I was doing.
Part of this was because of my struggles with infertility. It had been 13 months since I had the surgery to correct my Asherman’s Syndrome (uterine adhesions) and while everything looked good, still no positive pregnancy test.
If you’ve ever dealt with any sort of infertility, you know how the monthly roller coaster of hope, excitement, and disappointment can wear you down both mentally and emotionally.
Besides dealing with the infertility issues, our family cat went missing on New Year’s Day; we think that a coyote attacked him. Along with all of this emotional stress, I had been relying on sweets and caffeine for a pick-me-up, and the cumulative effect was not good. I was depressed, anxious, and moody. I didn’t feel happy – which is not a normal thing for me.
I knew that I had to do something – I felt terrible; I felt like giving up.
Life is unpredictable, you can plan and schedule, but you never know what’s going to come your way. So what can you do when life hands you lemons?
Here are some personal and business tips that can help to get you back on track when you feel like giving up.
Although my energy was at an all-time low, I knew from personal experience that exercise would help me to feel better. Exercise has many stress-reducing effects, from increasing your endorphins (your body’s natural feel-good chemicals) to help you sleep better. Exercise has even been credited as a meditation method. According to the Mayo Clinic, “As you begin to regularly shed your daily tensions through movement and physical activity, you may find that this focus on a single task, and the resulting energy and optimism, can help you remain calm and clear in everything that you do.”
While the exercise helped reduce my stress a little, I needed a major pick me up. So I purchased Dr. James Wilson’s book, Adrenal Fatigue. A friend of mine had told me about the book nine months prior, and I had always meant to purchase it, but never did because it wasn’t an urgent need at the time.
I read the book in one day and started to implement many of Dr. Wilson’s suggestions immediately. Part of this was taking lots of recommended vitamins and supplements. I can’t even begin to explain how much this helped, within a couple of weeks, I started to feel like a new person. If’ you’re feeling stressed, anxious, and rundown, I highly suggest reading his book or seeing a holistic doctor that can get you on the supplements that your body needs.
3. Less Caffeine and Sugar
This is a big topic with a lot of physiological details, but for our purposes, we’re just going to skim over the main idea. In Dr. Wilson’s book, he talks about the importance of cutting out sugar and caffeine, because of their instant boost then crash and burn effect.
When you’re already feeling stressed and anxious, caffeine can add to the problem by creating sleep disturbances, increased anxiety, and palpitations. Whereas sugar can cause weight gain, decreased immune function, and a rapid rise of adrenaline, hyperactivity, anxiety, and difficulty concentrating.
Try switching your morning coffee with some green tea or herbal tea and make that morning cup of java an occasional treat. As for the sweets, they are hard to give up, but after a couple of weeks of not having them, your body doesn’t crave them as much. Just like working out, you have to put in the hard work to get the stress-relieving benefits, but once you do, it’s so worth it. Along with this, a healthy diet is a must, but that’s enough information for a whole other blog post.
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4. Get a Mentor
Now that you’ve got your mind in a more positive position, it’s time to focus on your business and regain that passion. One of the best ways to do this is to get a mentor, a business coach, or join a mastermind group. While you may be thinking you don’t have the time or money to invest, there are literally thousands of coaches, groups, and programs, and there will be one that fits your specific needs. Over the years, I've purchased many courses and mastermind groups. Having a mentor helps give your business clarity; it can reignite your passion, and give you a solid foundation for success. Just remember, you have to actually put in the work for it to pay off, just like exercise.
5. Letting Go
Sometimes when we're hung up on a particular issue, the best thing to do is to hand it over to our higher power and let it go. Everything happens for a reason, and often we need to trust that it's all going to work out the way it is meant to be. While we may not understand why certain things happen, we can focus our energy on the positive and appreciate the good things that are in our lives; keeping a gratitude journal can be an excellent way to stay positive. Also, in Dr. Wilson's book, he discusses numerous ways to keep your mind healthy through meditation and reframing your mindset.
6. Know Your Limits
As women, we often try to do it all, and that’s fine, but when it starts to stress you out, you need to know that it’s time to ask for help. You’re not all alone in this world, rely on the ones who love you, they want to help you. Along with this, you need to know when to say no. As Brene Brown says, choose discomfort over resentment – meaning that yes, it will be uncomfortable to say no to a request, but in the long run, you won’t feel that resentment for saying yes to something that you really didn’t want to do.
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7. Be Kind to Yourself
To be kind to others, you must first be kind to yourself. To do this, you must nurture yourself physically, mentally, socially, and emotionally. This means balancing your life with a certain amount from each area (and we all have different needs as far as the percentage of each area goes). Eat healthy, exercise, relax, spend quality time with family and friends, allow yourself some downtime, and stimulate your brain by learning. If you don’t take care of yourself first, you won’t be able to take care of others without getting frustrated and angry.
As an entrepreneur, there are going to be times when you feel like giving up, but knowing the steps to keep your mind and body healthy will help you to propel your business forward.
Have you ever felt like throwing in the towel? What are your business tips for staying on track?
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