Happy New Year – by the time you read this we will already have rung in another new year!
If you’re like me, you are filled with anticipation and hopefulness that this year will be better than last and that all the unfulfilled wishes and desires will come true. This is a time for letting go of the old and welcoming of the new, whatever that looks like for you.
Whatever goals, desires, unmet needs, or whatever you wanted to accomplish but didn’t now can come to fruition but only if you choose for them to be. This means that along with creating new goals you must adopt a new outlook in your attitude and your ego.
Now you might be wondering how I chose those two so let me explain. In order to go after all that we desire in our lives – a better job, a new or improved relationship, to be physically fit – we need to have a positive and ‘can do’ attitude; ego comes in the form of self-confidence, self-trust, and the belief that you can and are deserving and can have exactly what you want and in all areas of your life.
So many people say they want to do something and then don’t achieve it, either because they haven’t completely prepared to begin the task, or they do something to sabotage their efforts. If your outlook isn’t aligned, meaning the inside is in sync with the outside, then nothing you do will either make it happen or make it stick. So isn’t it time that you completely changed your outlook, which includes being more positive and optimistic and then believing that you deserve to have them?
As your ‘cheerleader’ I would tell you that your answer should be a resounding “YES!” It really isn’t as difficult as you might be thinking or believing right now, but changing this will require some w-o-r-k (it will be so worth it in the end). To create a more positive outlook, and make this year the best year of your life, here are some quick tips to get you started:
1. Review Your Accomplishments From the Past Year
I’m sure you’ve made some great things happen so looking at them again can be a reminder that you can accomplish goals and tasks; this can be a great catalyst to eliciting positive emotions and keep you in a forward motion.
2. Appreciation and Be Grateful
Begin the practice of appreciating your strengths and talents and all of the things that make up you, so your ego and self-worth can grow; this will help you push through any self-doubts when the next challenge comes up. We know how powerful the practice of gratitude is in helping to take the focus off of any negatives and ‘show’ you that you do have a good life. Start with writing three things you are thankful for and increase that number weekly.
3. Do For Others
You have talents and abilities that can serve others in some way so using them in service of others is not only good for them but for you as well. This does not just mean volunteering, although this is a great activity to practice; it can mean holding a door for someone, giving a smile to a stranger, or turning off your cell phone and being engaged in conversation.
4. Let Go of Any and All Negative Influences in Your Life
This can entail past hurts, failed relationships, or any regrets you may have. These only hurt you and will keep you in victim mode, which does not help you to see your possibilities or making them real. Research has shown that people who don’t hold on to regret are happier as opposed to those who don’t.
Developing and maintaining a positive outlook, where you are the hero in the story, is a choice to make; your outlook determines your level of success so focusing on this new outlook will become the norm and lead you to accomplish all that you want in your life. Decide that this year is the year you’ll make them happen – now go for it!